Lately, I’ve been blessed to spend a lot of time with friends, old and new. And while the topics of our conversations have been raw and painful, I always leave feeling encouraged, renewed and hopeful.
Every. Single. Time.
Has that happened to you lately?
It’s so easy to go through our days making small talk: “How are you?” “Busy! You?” But when we don’t go past the small talk, when we avoid the bigger truths of what’s going on in our lives, we miss out on a huge opportunity – the opportunity to share each other’s burdens.
Because you know what?
I think there are a whole lot of people walking around struggling with painful issues and a smile on their faces. I know this because I’m one of them.
But there’s one thing that has made all the difference for me – the support of friends.
Night and day!
How cool is it that when you’re brave enough to open up about a struggle, that you will often find relief?! But you’ve got to be brave and honest or no one will ever know that life isn’t as perfect as it looks on your Facebook feed.
Brene Brown writes,
Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage.
Truth and courage are not always comfortable, but they are never weakness.
When we’re vulnerable (and honest) with each other this isn’t weakness! And to hear that being vulnerable is actually being courageous?! Now that’s something I feel good about.
So if you’re struggling, take a chance.
Reach out to someone.
Tell her how you’re really feeling.
You might be surprised at the response you get.
You’ll probably be supported and blessed. You might find out your friend is struggling, too, and this was just the chance she needed to unload her stress and anxiety.
If you are blessed to be in a place where you’re not struggling, look for clues. Notice when your friend shares that unhappy post or seems a little down. Give her a chance to tell you how she really feels.
You don’t have to pry, but you can let her know you’re there and you love her. It might be just the lifeline she needs.
And I am here for you, too!
If there’s anything I want to be for you, it’s encouraging. So if you need encouragement, I’m all yours. Really.
I hope I didn’t say too much. But I have to admit, I feel better already 🙂